A lot of men with ADHD grow up receiving constant feedback that they’re “too much,” too impulsive, too intense, too disorganized, or too chaotic. Over time, many learn that being liked requires masking, people-pleasing, and shrinking themselves. When you layer in rejection sensitivity, which is extremely common in ADHD, dating stops feeling like connection and starts feeling like threat detection. Your brain starts thinking: “If I say the wrong thing, I’ll be rejected.” “If I’m not perfect, I’ll